Gas lighting is a form of emotional abuse in which the abuser manipulates the victim into doubting their own perceptions and memories. This can make it difficult for the victim to trust their own judgment and can make them feel confused, anxious, and isolated.

Divorcing a gas lighter can be a challenging and emotionally draining process. With this form of psychological manipulation, the manipulator intentionally undermines the victim's perception of reality to gain control. If you are divorcing a gas lighter, here are some self-care tips to keep in mind.

Start by seeking support. It's important to have a support system in place when divorcing a gas lighter. This may include friends, family, or a therapist who can provide emotional support and guidance.

Work on gathering documentation and evidence. Gas lighters may try to twist the truth or manipulate the facts in their favor. It's important to gather evidence to support your position and to have a clear record of events.

Seek legal representation early. It's a good idea to seek the help of a lawyer when divorcing a gas lighter. A lawyer can help protect your rights and advocate for your interests.

Set and maintain boundaries. It's important to set clear boundaries with a gas lighter to protect yourself emotionally. This may involve limiting contact or setting ground rules for communication. See our resource for tools that can help with healthier communication. 

Don't try to reason with them. Gas lighters often try to manipulate the facts and twist the truth in their favor. Trying to reason with them can be futile, and it's important to focus on protecting yourself and your interests.

Mediation can be an effective way to resolve disputes and reach mutually acceptable agreements in many divorce cases, but it may not be the best option for couples where one spouse is a gas lighter. In cases where there is a significant power imbalance or where there has been domestic abuse, such as gaslighting, mediation may not be appropriate.

If you are considering divorce and one spouse has engaged in gaslighting or other forms of emotional abuse, it is important to seek the guidance of a trained professional, such as a lawyer or therapist, to help you understand your options and protect your rights.